Building your life by design!
We all want to have great things. But a large number of us aren’t creating the results we want. Complaining that we don’t have enough money, time, romance, success or happiness in our lives will not bring the success we are looking for we need to take specific action daily to make it happen.
Pointing fingers or blaming others for our problems in life will only increase our difficult. But what we need to understand and keep at the forefront of our minds is that greatness exists in all of us. It is simply up to us to pull it out of ourselves. Regardless of personal circumstances or the economy, it helps to maintain our faith and remember that we we’re all meant to be successful in fact we are more powerful than we think.
We all have the ability to create the life we want. We just need to learn how to do it. But first we need to stop listening to all the negativity around us 24/7. Is there an exact “formula”? No, but there are certain common features that successful people exhibit and that anyone can practice.
You’d be hard pressed to find any high achiever who doesn’t live by the following tips:
Take No Less than 100% Responsibility for Your Life
One of the greatest myths out there today is that you are entitled to a great life with all the bells and whistles, that somehow, somewhere; someone is responsible for filling our lives with continual happiness, exciting career options, nurturing family time and blissful personal relationships simply because we exist. But the real truth is that there is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live. That person is you!
Everything about you is a result of your efforts or the lack of them. Income, Debt, Relationships, Health, Fitness, Attitudes and or behaviours. That person who reflects back at you in the mirror is responsible for your life.
I believe most people are aware of this, but the mind can play games, tricking people into thinking conditions not controlled by them are responsible factors of failure, disappointment, and unhappiness. But the truth of the matter is that no external factors determine how you live. You are in complete control of the quality of your life.
Successful people take full responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images they visualize, and the actions they take. They don’t waste their time and energy blaming and complaining. They evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change them or not. They face the uncomfortable truth and make the necessary changes to their actions in order to create the life they want to live.
Be Clear Why you’re here!
I believe each of us is born with a God given life purpose. Identifying, acknowledging and honouring this purpose, is the most important aspect for success. Success minded people take the time to understand what they’re here to do, and then they pursue that with passion, purpose and enthusiasm.
If you don’t know you’re life purpose then the signals around you will be confusing, and looking to others for help and guidance is good and helpful, but don’t forget to on yourself—your behaviour, attitude, likes and dislikes, and life experiences. Identify your passion and what’s working and what isn’t. A journal may prove to be a great way to keep track. You might be surprised by what you discover.
Decide What You Want
There are plenty of people who are overly-busy yet who are unsatisfied or unfulfilled. They are physically tired, spiritually drained, and far from where they would like to be—it’s as if they’ve been running on a treadmill going nowhere. Why? Most likely because they haven’t clearly planned out what they want and then taken the necessary steps to get there. Rather than identifying specific goals, milestones, and dreams (and I’m talking BIG dreams and goals here), they go through the rat race motions day in and day out with unimportant tasks. They end up going in circles and wasting all your energy as they grow increasingly uninspired and out of touch with their authentic selves. This, of course, sets anyone up to living a life out of balance.
One of the main reasons why most people don’t get what they want is they haven’t decided what they want. They haven’t defined their desires in clear and compelling detail. What does success look like to you? Not everybody’s definition of success is the same.
Don’t let your (To Do list) inhibit you from dreaming big. As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your subconscious creative mind will come up with big ideas to make it happen. You’ll start attracting the people, resources, and opportunities you need into your life to make your dream come true. Big dreams not only inspire you, but they also compel others to want to play big, with you.
Believe It Is Possible
Scientists used to believe that humans responded to information flowing into the brain from the outside world. But today, they’re learning that instead we respond to what the brain, based on previous experience, expects to happen next. In fact, the mind is such a powerful instrument; it can deliver literally everything you want. But you have to believe that what you want is possible.
As you commit to believing in yourself, also make a commitment to coming down the complaint departments. Look at what you are focusing on. I’m fat. I’m tired. I can’t get out of debt. I won’t ever get a better job. I can’t stand the relationship I have with my father. I’ll never find a soul mate in life. Really examine what you’re forecasting. Everything in your life is there because of what you are proclaiming by what you speak. The power in your words proclaim what will happen in your future, so make sure to speak out what you want to happen in your future!
Believe in Yourself
If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that you are worth it and capable the capability to make it happen. Whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence or self-assurance, it is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes; the abilities, inner resources, talents and skills to create your desired destiny.
Have unwavering faith in God and yourself. Make the decision to focus and believe that you can create the experiences you want. Remember that only you can make the decision to change your life action, taking this level of responsibility are uniquely empowering. It means you can do, change, and become anything you set your mind to. Imagine how much easier it would be to succeed in life if you were constantly expecting the world to support you and bring you opportunity. Successful people do just that.
Unleash the Power of Goal Setting
Experts on the science of success know the brain is a goal-seeking organism. Whatever goal you give to your subconscious mind, it will work day and night to achieve. To engage you subconscious mind, a goal has to be measurable. When there aren’t any criteria for measurement, it is simply something you want, a wish, a preference, or a good idea.
Sometimes we need to make just one initial goal to get started. A first step can be making an immediate change in a single area in your life. Are you unhappy about something that is happening right now? Take the steps to change it remember that if it’s with you it’s up to you. Making change isn’t always comfortable but it will start your refocus attention and then your actions. You can either do something about it or not. It is your choice and you are totally responsibility for your choices.
You have to be willing to change your behaviour if you want a different outcome. Remember the definition of insanity is doing the same thing an expecting a different result. You have to be willing to take the risks necessary to get what you want. If you’ve already taken an initial step in the right direction, now’s the time to plan more steps to keep moving you forward faster.
Isn’t it a great relief to know that you can make your life what you want it to be? Isn’t it wonderful that your successes do not depend on someone else?
Commit to taking 100% responsibility for every aspect of your life. Decide to make changes, one step at a time. Once you start the process you’ll discover it is much easier to get what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your actions!